Control addiction (yang) versus victim attitude (yin)

Classically, we assign the active yang (i.e. our male inner parts) the quality of control. In contrast, the passive yin (our female inner parts) is the supposedly weak victim. Among other places, we live out this “game” between power and powerlessness in our love relationships, mostly completely unconscious.

In parallel, the same “game” exists at the global level: some control, others are the victims. It would be too simple if we say: men control women, even though the now expiring yang dictatorship has pressed us into these fixed roles for thousands of years through our self-created systems and thinking limitations.

In the new Aquarian Age everything will be different

In these times of Great Change, we also reshuffle our gender games: We alternately turn our inner yin and yang parts in circles many times, depending on the situation. Thus, depending on the phase of life and the learning topic, we usually play on our multidimensional life stage in both roles, sometimes more, sometimes less pronounced.

The Yin victim looks protectively into the eyes of the Yang control addict after every mistake made. But the yin is not weak, it controls from the shadows, we call it manipulation then. Both sides have their advantages and disadvantages, we play them according to old known ego rules like the best trumps in our trading card games.

I think it’s time to get rid of the trained patterns. Let go, go into our heart (for example with the help of Heart Chakra Breathing). From there, we no longer need to follow the old paradigms, we see the situations from the bird’s eye view, and we have a broader range of possible actions.

Victim and perpetrator, why only do we play with each other at all? We are Yin, and we are Yang, sometimes more, sometimes less.

Or, if we already want to play, then we rather choose to be Healer and Creator, or why not (heart) goddess and magician?

If the other soul has an aura personally experienced as pleasant, we can embrace and experience SEH together. Then when both open their heart chakras while breathing, they can feel the fine energetic current flowing between Yin and Yang.

“Normal” people have a hard time feeling

Can we trust each other? Can we forgive each other? Can we embrace each other? Then let’s dare to experiment: let’s forgive, let’s let go.

And then we only need to feel delicately and learn to perceive our highly sensitive fine senses more again, then we feel it: A fine and pure flowing love between us, a magical dance between Yin and Yang, sometimes it even evokes a slight astral tingling in us. Beautiful! Let’s enjoy it while we meditate together.

We are Yin, and we are Yang, we exchange, we harmonize, we open each other and together the gates into the new age and into the new dimensions, which cannot be experienced without forgiveness, gratitude and empathy.

Once we are there with our consciousness, then we do not want to control and manipulate from this perception. From now on, can we be (heart) goddess or god and magician? That would be beautiful, yin and yang would finally form a harmonious unity. From this new power and balance, a completely different world can be built than before.



Hi, I´m Nils, intuitive writer on topics like Yin & Yang, inner shadow work, higher dimensions, sacred sensuality, kundalini and energetic healing of our chakras and our astral or emotional body. Let LOVE be thy medicine. Let's learn together Heart Chakra Breathing, Healer & Creator and SEH. In my heart chakra breathing groups or in an intensive self-love retreat for singles or couples on the beautiful island of Tenerife, I can show you step by step how to better integrate your heart chakra into your daily life.