Loving touches behind high walls of thought

Loving touches are difficult in our “modern” world. Mostly we allow them only in our relationships. As a single person we are either supposed to pay for it (but please don’t tell anyone about it because it is so “dirty”!) or we are supposed to hold back and be patient until the right future potential partner comes into our lives.

Some people think we are underdeveloped when we crave touch. For me it was a big personal challenge to publish my book Horray, I am Human! because I knew how much misunderstanding it would meet.

Others say they don’t need touch and intimacy, they have “successfully” repressed their humanity, they have become bio-robots in keeping with the spirit of the times. Some find themselves particularly spiritual about it because they think they have successfully processed the “lower” layers of human needs.

Sometimes it is a long inner process until we can admit to ourselves: Yes, we are human beings. We long for closeness, for loving touch, for love, trust and oneness. Should we really be ashamed of having such feelings or should we fully allow, accept and live them?

Why have we pushed our human touches so far away from us that we only allow them in a relationship?