Sharing Energy and Love in a “Spiritual Threesome”

Our world is based on duality

Everyone knows the Yin Yang symbol and intuitively understands the meaning of it: It’s Adam and Eve, the male and the female, the positive and the negative, the giving and the receiving, the Shiva and the Shakti…

It’s a symbol for the duality that is needed to keep this world in an inner balance.

You can also use the symbol to describe the love and closeness between two people. In the traditional sense, this would be a couple with one male and one female, but of course, it symbolizes also all other human relationships and love constellations between two human beings who meet on the same eye level.

I would call a a relationship “healthy”, when the Yin and the Yang is balanced within both partners and in the relationship itself.

This is not so important in an outer sense (although a male/female couple might have it easier with the balancing). All of us carry male and female energies within us. So, each one of us should work on balancing our own male and female energies, as well as both partners should try to balance the duality aspects in their relationship with each other.

For example, the giving and the receiving should be in a good balance, so, both should give energy and love to the partner, and both should be able to receive the energies and the love of their partner.

Now, what happens to the energy balance, if we add a third person?

We created this symbol to show the harmonic energy flow between three human beings. This harmony is possible, when all three people are able to sense the energy constellation between all three and if all are working on balancing the whole.

This harmonic energy constellation between three people can for example happen when a couple meets a close friend for a coffee or tea. It can also be present when you meditate together. And of course it will be important, whenever you are touching each other, which is nothing more than a very direct form of exchanging energies with each other.

This inner harmony in a group of three can be clearly felt, when you are hugging each other. And, if all three agree to this, if you touch each other in a more sensual or maybe even sexual way, it is even more important to balance the threesome constellation in itself, as well as the relationships between all three individuals.

If you are able to achieve a perfect balance between the three of you, the rewards can be a deeper type of love and joy than you have experienced before in a Yin Yang constellation.

It can be deeper, because it is not a selfish, but an expanding love. In a traditional relationship, you give your love to one person and you receive the love of one person. Mathematically, this is very simple to understand: 1 + 1 = 2. There are two givers and two receivers who form a unity with each other.

If you choose to be only two, then you automatically close yourself for energies from outside. You ignore the world around you, it’s just you too. Very romantic, indeed! (And I really mean that in the most honest and loving way.)

But what happens, if a couple invites another person to share personal closeness and maybe even intimicy with each other? In numbers, you would write this as 2 + 1. But really, it is 1 + 1 + 1, and each person shares a relationship with two other people.

Now, we have three givers and three receivers. In an ideal spiritual threesome, each person gives an identical amount of energy and love to the other two. And each one receives energy and love from two other human beings. If this harmony can be achieved, then it doubles the amount of energy and love each person receives!

Energetic differences in a spiritual FFM threesome

This is a symbol of a “Yin Yin Yang”, two female and one male human unite with each other – in an energetic, loving and maybe also sexual way.

In this constellation, each female can experience another female AND a male. And the male is able to experience two females at the same time. This type of spiritual threesome automatically shifts the group energies into a more female oriented direction.

Maybe you will be more sensual with each other. You might all be able to feel and receive much more and in a much deeper way. The male partner is balancing this with his personal male energies, which can be a very explosive mixture…

In a Yin Yin Yang setting, the two females will act differently with each other and with the male, as if there were three females. There might be inner rival problems coming up between the two females. But if both can accept this constellation for as long as this moment together lasts (which might be only for one night), then the love can really expand and reward all three with an intense experience of love, joy and unity.

Which emotions and anxieties can occur?

For an expanding love to happen, both females need to make peace with their inner feelings of jealousy and rivalry. For some, this is not an easy lesson to learn. These feelings can come up from deep down within, even if one thought that this won’t be a problem.

From deep down they come, indeed! These feelings are stored in our lower three chakras. In our first chakra, we are dealing with our desire for security, grounding and comfort.

The third chakra adds our desire for control, trust and self-esteem to the mixture. And if this were not already spicy enough, the second chakra then adds unfulfilled sensual desires to it, but also some emotional injuries that we might have experienced in our life.

So, this constellation of energies can trigger quite an intense inner work for someone who is not already completely at peace with the energies of the lower chakras! But this is a good thing to happen, because it can be an enormous opportunity to pull these (partly conflicting) energies up into the heart chakra.

Both females receive the opportunity to use the uplifting energies of lust and pleasure from the second chakra to transfer the explosive mixture of ALL three lower chakras into the heart chakra. If they succeed with this, then true unconditional love can be experienced for them.

The male, on the other hand, needs to watch out for favoring one female over the other (or giving one of them the impression of it). Both females should be equally worthy for his love, attention and affection, at least for the amount of time that you spend together like this.

If the male has a classic Yin Yang relationship with one of the two females, than he can experience the massive amount of trust that his girlfriend or wife is lying into him. She is giving up the position of being the only female that can touch and even satisfy him (or being touched and receiving sensual pleasure from him). He might be forever grateful to her for allowing this to happen.

Energetic differences in a spiritual MMF threesome

A “Yang Yang Yin” would then be the constellation of one female with two males. I think we can all intuitively understand that there are big energetical differences, when the group energy is more male oriented.

The female then gets the job to balance this setting with her opposing energies. To find a healthy group balance, she will have to divide her attention, love and affection equally between two males, one of them maybe being her boyfriend or husband.

In most cases of MMF threesomes, probably the greater work needs to be done within and between the two males. If a couple invites another man to be intimate with each other, than the male partner has to deal with his feelings of jealousy and insecurity.

Here, the same process is needed as described before in the FFM section: The male partner of the Yin Yang relationship will need to mix these anxieties and emotions with the sexual lust and sense of pleasure, so that this cooking, bubbling energy mix can be lifted up to the heart chakra.

If he succeeds with this, his sense of love will have expanded greatly. His love for his wife or girlfriend is to intense that he is willing to share her with another man! The greater pleasure of opening up to unconditional love will be worth the trouble of letting go of his fears and insecurities.

What should the two men do with each other?

Usually, men have more problems and anxieties to touch another man than this can be seen between females. For a truly balanced spiritual threesome, both males will need to think and talk about their feelings about this.

Ideally, both males can equally enjoy the presence of the other man and see them not as a rival, but as a valuable bonus in the sensual experience together. And maybe they are also able to overcome their fear from being classified as “not normal”, when they allow themselves to touch each other without any shyness.

And what happens afterwards?

Supposing the three are not favouring a polyamorous relationship, then the couple will have to fully process and integrate their intimate experience with a third person into their existing relationship.

Ideally, the spiritual threesome can help the couple to feel a deeper and more trusting love for each other. It might also shift their Yin Yang balance within their relationship to one side or the other, depending on the gender of their guest. Here lies another possibility to use this new experience for balancing out the personal shares of Yin and Yang within themselves.

The invited guest, however, will have to fully accept the relationship of the couple. The experienced time of shared love was an important moment together. Now it totally depends on all three individually, if this was a one-time experience or if there will be more following.